24 April 2019

"We're in the endgame now"

"How many did you see?"
"How many did we win?"

After the MCU devastaed us with Avengers: Inifinity War -
Thanos won.
For the first time, our beloved heroes lost.
Utterly and without closure.
the time has come to settle the score for as
Tony Stark said from the beginning
"Earth's Mightiest Heroes.....
If we can't protect the Earth,
you can be damed sure we'll avenge it."
This movie is long.
3 hours and 2 minutes to be exact.
Altough I'd say it's more like 3 hours and 10 minutes to include the first part of the credits.
And trust me when I say,
it doesn't ever give you a break.
It starts without warning or even a recap.
Just BAM!
So use the bathroom before,
maybe skip the drink and popcorn,
and just enjoy the show.
I enjoyed everything about this movie.
I walked out and immediately wanted to go back and watch it again.
It's not just the story I will go back for either.
The way it was filmed,
the MUSIC!!!,
everything spectacular we've come to expect from a Marvel movie
were all there and then some.
Movies you NEED to have seen before seeing Endgame:
Avengers Infinity War.
That's it.
Captain Marvel is a good idea to see just so you can know who
she is and what she can do but it isn't essential
while Inifinity War is most definitely.
They don't have the luxury of recapping the last movie 
before delving into this one so you've been warned!
If you're thinking of taking your kids to see this I have a slight word of caution:
unless they've seen Inifinity War, and survived watching that,
I'd wait a bit before they see this.
There's nothing bad in the way of bad words or sexual innuendos
but it IS intense and doesn't let up really at all.
And there is, considerably, a lot of fighting.
My own kids won't be seeing either of these until they're a little bit older
only becasue they're not emotionally mature enough to handle them yet.
Will they avenge the world like they've promised:
"Whatever it takes."?
Go see it in theaters starting April 26th and find out!
(and then talk to me cuz I'm DYING to talk to people about it!!!)

20 March 2019

We need to change the story

  Most of you know that I am a member of
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints
and I have a calling (volunteer position) of teaching
the Beehive class who are 11-13 year old girls.
This year we are having the girls teach with us 
and they get to pick the lesson.
I was surprised when one girl picked
"Why is chastity important?"
as the lesson we would teach together.
But I was also humbled knowing that she felt comfortable enough
to suggest this one, without even giggling, and prepare for it.
I knew I needed help with this myself so I went
on Instagram for opinions and insights on this sensitive subject;
specifically, what you wish you had been taught
as a young woman that you didn't know until you grew up.
The response I had from my friends and colleagues on social media
was astounding.
So many amazing insights and differing perspectives
and I'm going to share them here because this is a conversation
I feel we ALL need to have with our children.
Especially our sweet girls.
As a youth myself I remember this lesson and feeling the blush
come up on my cheeks just hearing the word chastity.
That lesson was always a source of embarrassment and uncomfortable.
But I never felt like I was being guilted or told I wasn't enough ever in those lessons.
I was also incredibly lucky to have my mom and her two best friends
as my teachers for 5 of those 6 years in Young Women,
so the lessons, while weird, were never to make me feel
like my only worth was in staying pure.
For others, they were not as lucky.
They got the "chewed up gum" or the "mud splatted white fence"
lessons of guilt and worthlessness should they transgress.
The worst thing some one shared was of a leader saying in a lesson like this was
"what man could ever want someone that wasn't clean or pure?"
When I heard that from this incredible friend 
I felt like I personally had been punched in the gut.
What a horrible thing to say!
While the law of chastity is there to help keep us pure
and IS important to follow,
that does not diminish our worth in the eyes of God
if it is broken or a mistake is made.
It shouldn't diminish anyone's worth
in our own eyes.
Most of the time in our religious culture 
(almost regardless of which religion it is),
women are shunned if they transgress with this law.
I feel that this is so egregious and horrifying.
Instead we should be so loving and open and willing to help them heal.
How do we help them heal?
We talk of the healing power of the Atonement.
The power of the Atonement is overwhelming when you start to understand it.
Jesus Christ literally suffered for ALL of our sins.
He did this so when we mess up,
if we repented of and forsook it,
He would remember it no more because He already atoned for it.
That is something amazing to realize.
 Even if you do transgress in this way,
you can recover,
You can be healed.
You are still so loved beyond measure.
He will never forsake you,
believe on that and your healing will begin.
A friend equated it to a broken bone:
over time you nurture it and it will heal,
so will your heart.
An amazing woman opened up about how she
wished that she had been able to be more open about her changing body.
But she felt that every part of her was sexualized and therefore
felt embarrassed to even think about asking.
She feels that maybe if that had been more out in the open,
she would have been able to recognize the times when
she was being sexually assaulted and been able to do something.
So much of what we're taught and discussing needs to change.
We need to teach more about what our bodies are capable of:
growing human beings, feeding those same babies,
preparing to hopefully be able to conceive those babies as well.
We need to change the story of breasts being nothing but things to oogle at.
We need to change the story that women are inherently sexual 
and want that at all times.
We need to change the story that women are the only beings "responsible"
and the only ones that have to "deal with the consequences".
We need to change the story that our girls have to be constantly
worried about becoming a sexual object by anyone of the opposite sex.
This lesson started as just the question of
why is chastity so important?
It became so much more to me personally
as I read story after story of heartbreak and abuse.
Moms. Sisters. Leaders. Teachers.
we need to change how we speak to our young girls and boys.
Chastity is a hard thing to describe and explain to a room of preteens.
I want to change that.
I'm not saying we share intimate details with other people
I believe that an open communication channel between
kids and adults they trust is imperative.
Be open about what our bodies will naturally do
and want to do.
If we make it so taboo to even speak of 
who will they go to for answers when things are hard?
I want my kids (my young women included) to feel comfortable
to come to me with any issues they may have.
I may not have all the answers they seek,
but I can help them find them.
We have a long ways to go in our society
to change how we perceive things.
I only hope we have enough time to teach our kids this:
Sexual feelings are natural.
You're supposed to have them, it's ok.
It's also ok if you don't have them right now. 
Sex itself is a wonderful natural gift we've been given
to show we love someone else so much.
But it is also so much more than physical.
Save that experience for the one
you know will treasure you forever.
Someone who will stand by you no matter what.
At the right time.
In the right place.
But also this:
You are loved even when you make a mistake.
You are worth more than all the treasure of the earth.
NO matter what.
I want to wrap every single one of these amazing ladies 
in the biggest Mama Bear hug possible for being so brave
and sharing these very intimate experiences with me.
I also am sending a virtual hug to any and
all who may be dealing with this now.
If you have felt shamed for anything,
please know that I see you.
I hear you.
I hold space for you and
want you here!

01 February 2019

Functional Craft/Office Space

  I've been on the search for MONTHS
for something to hold all of my vinyl and such for my business
and let me tell you,
If I had no budget to worry about,
I have plenty of wishlists I could share but let's share the reality shall we? ;)
The I found it!
My sweet friend was cleaning out her garage and had an IKEA
dresser (similar here) that she had made super cute
and just didn't need anymore.
I quickly volunteered as tribute for it!
When I saw it in person I was so happy and knew it would be perfect!
 I got it home and put it in the space I had cleared for it
(the room is super funky in layout,
weird walls and let's not even talk about the horrid colors in here -
they were from the previous owners and we didn't have money
to have them paint before so there ya go!)
and I quickly put everything in the drawers.

(And yes, I've been folding in the Kon Mari style WAY before this year folks hahaha) 
Owning your own small business is no joke y'all.
It takes a lot of time and effort
but is also so much fun!
 I also got myself the Cricut EasyPress 2!!
I bought the 12 X 10 press and the 20 X 16 mat 
that they suggest for it.
I haven't been this happy in a long time!
It's so easy to use and will save me TONS of time and backache! 
If you want to see a full tutorial for how to use it,
stay tuned! There will be a post soon!
If you can't wait any longer because you just love all things crafty,
I DID do a small tutorial on my Instagram Stories
and saved it in my highlights on my profile!

21 January 2019

CariPRO Ultrasonic Toothbrush by Smile Brilliant!

Who here has an electric toothbrush??
I've had one for about a year or so and I love mine!
And full disclosure:
My mom gave it to me hahaha
I wasn't going to pass up a FREE electric toothbrush ya know?
Then I saw Smile Brilliant came out with their own version!
You guys know how much I LOVE their teeth whitening system,
seriously the best one,
and I was eagerly saving up my pennies to get their brush!
When they contacted me for a trial of their toothbrush,
I kid you not I danced in the car!
My kids thought I was NUTS hahaha
**Post does contain affiliate links and I was given the product in exchange
for a review, all opinions are 100% my own**

I love this toothbrush!!!
I'm not saying it lightly either.
I love this toothbrush,
it is seriously awesome and designed so well to help your oral health!
We all know that electric toothbrushes are better for
oral care than manual brushes which is why I grabbed my old one
before my mom gave it away and it has dramatically helped my teeth.
I had an Oral-B SonicCare toothbrush,
and now with the CariPRO Ultrasonic Toothbrush my teeth have never been better.
This brush comes with 5 modes of brushing!
Did you even know that there could be MODES?
I love especially that it comes with a "Sensitive" mode
because some days my teeth are just extra sensitive and they need
to be cleaned with a little less vigor.

One of the features is that when you turn it on,
it stays on for 2 minutes with pauses every 30 seconds.
It's designed this way to give each quadrant of the mouth the
time and cleaning it needs to be fully cleaned!
No more needing to sing the Happy BIrthday song or 
setting a timer for it;
the toothbrush does all the thinking for you.
The battery life is amazing!
I plugged it in and didn't need to recharge it for over a week!
 The toothbrush heads can be purchased separately as well
so buying the actual toothbrush only once is required,
then all you need are new heads!
I like their designed heads because I felt like 
they get my WHOLE mouth clean.
Sometimes with these tiny brush heads it's questionable
 if it's all getting cleaned or not.
Wanna know the best part?
That's right friends,
I'm giving away one FREE CariPRO Ultrasonic Toothbrush to one of you!!
Click the link below to enter to win!! 
If you have any other questions about the toothbrush that I didn't answer,
check out their FAQs for some great info as well!
And for those of you that don't want to wait to get your hands on
one of these toothbrushes I have a discount code for you!
20% OFF the toothbrush which is HUGE guys!!
Use code: ourhappilyeverafterblog20
Good luck to you all!!