These are sensitive questions that are only for husbands and wives
and our Heavenly Parents to ask each other.
Only our Heavenly Parents know how many children
are supposed to come to us,
They will give us the signs/info/promptings necessary to have more kids.
I used to ask people those questions especially when they didn't have any kids yet.
I now know that it's very insensitive to do that.
Who knows what their journey has been!
Maybe they are trying and you asking that
just puts another hole in their heart after yet another negative test.
Or even the couple that doesn't want children!
Guess what?
Guess what?
It's not a requirement in life to have children.
And if they have made that decision then it's between them
and our Heavenly Parents.
I'm not saying we, personally, will never have another child BUT
And if they have made that decision then it's between them
and our Heavenly Parents.
I'm not saying we, personally, will never have another child BUT
for the foreseeable future,
BUT I will share them in hopes that it may help someone else
who is also feeling this way to know they're not alone.
I could not handle another child mentally right now.
who is also feeling this way to know they're not alone.
I could not handle another child mentally right now.
My anxiety is too close of a friend still.
I'm still in the trenches of small child rearing.
It is the hardest and most draining work I've ever done
and I worked at Disneyland for a year guys.
THAT was hard but this is so much harder.
I love having two girls.
I love that we can take one on one time with them pretty easily.
I can take one with me to the grocery store
and have some fun talks while the other stays
with Andrew and has quality time with him.
That time is very important to me because I want them to know
we are always there.
Financially we could have another and be fine but diapers.....
guys I'm so close to being done with diapers!
Jade will be potty training soon
and I'd like to rid myself of the smell of them
and the cost of them.
There are other reasons as well but these came to mind first
and some reasons are just too personal to share.
I know as an LDS (Mormon) woman there seems
to be pressure to have a ton of kids.
to be pressure to have a ton of kids.
I have come to finally understand that your family,
and it's size,
is a very personal choice.
and it's size,
is a very personal choice.
It can't be one dictated by culture or guilt/pressure.
And I know most people do not mean harm in asking those questions.
I know that.
Most people are just sincerely wondering about you
and how you're doing and they mean it well.
They are genuinely curious or wanting more babies to spoil ;)
Which is very sweet BUT I still feel that these questions
are just too personal to ask.
And so to answer the above questions:
NO.
There are no more kids in our forseeable future.
I am honestly perfectly happy with the two I have.
I'm not saying never because only God knows when/if more kids are up there for us.
I feel like these two are the only ones for me and Andrew
and for now.
They are genuinely curious or wanting more babies to spoil ;)
Which is very sweet BUT I still feel that these questions
are just too personal to ask.
And so to answer the above questions:
NO.
There are no more kids in our forseeable future.
I am honestly perfectly happy with the two I have.
I'm not saying never because only God knows when/if more kids are up there for us.
I feel like these two are the only ones for me and Andrew
and for now.
They are more than enough ;)