09 September 2014

Marriage Thoughts

SO my friend Jen is doing a Marriage Month
on her blog which I love,
and it got me thinking about MY marriage
and all that goes with it.
 
 
 Our love story didn't start out the way it "should" have.
We hated each other at first,
then grew into a friendship that then bloomed into something more.
Even as we were dating, it took me 6 months before I realized
that this was like for real,
and that I couldn't have been with anyone else.
Plus Andrew still needed to go on his mission,
that was a HUGE roadblock for us.
 
He was ALWAYS going to go mind you,
it just made things THAT much more difficult for me.
I was 19 and honestly, we could've been happy getting married right then
and we would've been fine.
BUT, for us, Andrew needed to go on his mission.
Looking back, we're soo glad that he went and that we were able to grow
in our own ways before we got married.
I hated those two years but I also cherished them.
I hated being away from Andrew
and not being able to see/talk to him,
but I loved getting his letters and seeing his progression.
He grew up so much over those two years,
learned so much about how to deal with people,
how to handle difficult situations,
and how to hear the Spirit talking even when you're busy.
I was working 2 jobs and just enjoying myself
and learning some new cooking skills
and trying to distract myself from him being gone.


Then when I decided to go to Disneyland,
I felt like I finally was able to grow on my own.
Andrew says he noticed a difference in MY letters once I got there.
And we continued to write back and forth.
When he got home and we knew we still wanted to get married,
he proposed within a month of being home
and we were married within 6 months of him being home ;)
Which sounds fast but really it had been 3 1/2 years coming.

I had been so excited to get married.
I never had the nervousness some experience beforehand.
I was all excitement and happiness cuz 
we had waited so stinkin long and it was finally happening!
Andrew had been my best friend for over 3 years and I was finally going to have him
with me all the time!


Now, no it has not been all rainbows and unicorns.
We took some time to get adjusted to each other's habits.
And we had to learn how to communicate when we didn't have a separate 
home to go back to hahaha
And as we learned how to handle different situations,
we became a better team and we were happier.

Now, almost 4 years and 2 kids later in our marriage,
I could not be happier.
Andrew is the best father to our little girls.
They both light up when he walks in the room,
he's wrapped around their little fingers
and he loves it.
He's the best partner especially with the new baby and helping with feedings/
diaper changes/clothing changes/etc.
While I was in labor,
before the blessed epidural,
and dealing with the contractions that I thought may rip me apart
(ok, ok, a little dramatic but srsly....those hurt mmmk?)
he just kept coming over and checking on me.
Holding my hands and telling me how great I was doing,
and that the medicine was coming soon hahaha
He knew what I needed to hear
("Epidural's coming honey I promise!")
and after Jade was born,
he's been absolutely wonderful with helping me recover.
For the first couple days he made me take it easy
even though I felt fine.
He never let my water get empty or warm haha
He would grab anything I asked for,
including the kids haha

To me, THIS is what marriage is about.
Teamwork and love.
Serving each other to the best of your abilities and trusting your spouse
to do the same.
One of my favorite quotes from Gordon B Hinckley is this:
(and it goes for wives to husbands too)

"I am satisfied that happiness in marriage is not so much a matter of romance 
as it is an anxious concern for the comfort and well-being of one’s companion. 
Any man who will make his wife’s comfort his first concern 
will stay in love with her throughout their lives and through the eternity yet to come”
 
I mean, YES!
I love Andrew more and more as each day passes,
and each year is a new adventure and I'm happy he's the one at my side
and that we have our two little princesses trailing behind us.
Marriage is so important to keep as a priority
especially in a world where anyone getting married is given the 
"They won't last a year" status,
and when divorce is getting more and more common.
So I say, YAY for marriage and for being privileged to marry my very best friend
without whom I couldn't be the mother and woman I am today ;)


1 comment:

  1. 1) Thanks for the shout out! I'm so glad people are enjoying this little series.

    2) This is fantastic. Your love story, the quotes, the kudos for Andrew...you guys are clearly winning at marriage. :)

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Welcome to our adventure!